THE SECRET OF LONELINESS IN THE SECOND HALF OF LIFE. AMAZON (available as audiobook)

 I hope that I was able to explain that to overcome our feeling of loneliness, we need to be at peace with ourselves; otherwise we will always be hunted by our demons and will always be looking for others to fill the void. Once we conquer loneliness, being alone will not mean isolation, but instead the feeling of being in the company of our expanded consciousness. What do I mean by expanded consciousness? We expand our consciousness when we become who we really are, and we are much more than meets the eye: we are our past and our present, we are all those we have met in our lives, we are our dreams and our achievements, and finally we are our view of the universe. Says Scott Peck in The Road Less Travelled: “Of the thousands, maybe even millions, of risks we can take in a lifetime, the greatest is the risk of growing up.” (1978) This means that once and for all we need to individuate from our parents and become who we really are, finally overcoming our emotional dependence on others. Psychologically, growing up is the only road to overcome the sense of loneliness and of being separated from the rest of the world. Why? Because we finally feel that we are able to stand alone in the universe, and that we will always be protected.