I still remember the first time I heard one of my colleagues
say: “It is what it is” when asked how he had finally convinced one of his
patients to let go of a relationship that was no longer there. At that time, I
was still a young therapist not very skilled at that kind of direct interventions;
in my fear of losing patients, I was always walking on eggshells. Later, when I
became more seasoned and more secure, I would try my hand at being less
pleasing; gradually I became more realistic and was able to understand that, by
and general, patients are able to face their fate. After so many books read on
the philosophy of life, I clearly understood that there is only one way to walk
the path of life with serenity: to accept that it is what it is. This paradigm
is valid for all walks of life: our affections, our profession, our family of
origin, and our children. This is not to say that we should blindly accept what
is presented to us without even trying to change what can be changed; the thing
to remember is that the changes are on us, not on reality. Let’s recall that
wise saying by Spanish philosopher Ortega y Gasset: we are us and our circumstance; in other
words, the reality that is thrown at us can never be ignored. Although
this is easy to say and to accept when it happens to somebody else; it is much
more complex to grasp when it suddenly appears on the threshold of our life. It
is then that we need to remember that life events are linked by mysterious and
difficult to understand causes and effects. However, when we accept what is,
suddenly everything becomes clear and there is no more room for anxiety or fear.
We have understood that the universe is in charge.
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